Donkey God

Growing up in the 80’s was a great time in my life. One thing about this era that was sad is that it was the time Aids started to kill people. At first everybody thought it was a gay disease and that if you weren’t gay you couldn’t catch it. As I remember it was in the mid 80’s when heterosexuals and people that used IV drugs started to catch the disease as well. Because of this a lot of research was started and expanded the scope of knowledge surrounding the disease. This was good as a better understanding of the disease was needed.

When I was growing up I was very close to my little sister Rachel. I was six and a half years older than her and as a result took care of her on a frequent basis,and loved it. In later years she got hooked to drugs during college. It bothered everybody in our family that she used drugs. This went on for years. In the spring of 2003 my sister tested positive for Aids. The day I learned of this I was so incredibly sad because that was the day that I knew my sister stopped caring whether she lived anymore or died.

When we first bought our house my husbands grandparents wanted to help us out. They were unable to help us with the physical part of the move. They decided to gift some money to us to help us purchase furniture. We are both so grateful for their help.

First they talked to a cash gifting expert so that they knew exactly how to do it and what records that they needed to keep. They also discussed what we needed to know for our part.

We are so thankful to have matching furniture that we would never have been able to purchase if we had not received the cash gift.

I remember when I started college. My grandparents wanted to make sure that I had enough money for all my needs. They decided, the day before I left to gift me cash.

By talking to a cash gifting expert they were able to know exactly how much to give me. They also told me how to money when it came to my taxes.

I do not know what I would have done if I had not received the gifted money. It has made such a difference in my life. There have been many times that I needed extra cash for books and other materials.

If you feel the heat of burn-out, it is possible to stop the fire before it stops you.

Burn-out burns out
confidence
trust
hope

Burn-out can burn up
your job
your marriage
your friendships

There is a simple strategy for helping yourself prevent burn-out, especially if you are a person with more responsibilities than choices.

This strategy may seem too simple, even a waste of time, especially if you are used to looking for a SOLUTION.

YOU CAN PREVENT BURN-OUT BY LEARNING TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF …even IF YOU THINK THAT YOU ALREADY KNOW EVERYTHING YOU HAVE TO SAY!.

If you are a person who is living in the Myth of Everything, then a PART of you that thinks it’s ALL of you may be living MOST of your life. That PART of you may not be able to stop herself from working harder and harder as a way of finally making life easier…unless she finds someone to talk to.

The PART of you that is trying to be ALL of you may think that she is ALL of you, especially if you have taken it for granted that she is.

Everyone else in your life may think that this PART of you that tries to do it all is ALL of you, too.

If this is the case, you probably have A LOT of obligations and very few CHOICES.

If you are close to burn-out this PART may be doing everything she can to take care of you the only way she knows how.

I wonder how long she’s been living your life.
I wonder who she thinks you are.
I wonder what she does to take care of you at work.
I wonder what she does to take care of you at home.
I wonder how old this PART of you really is.
I wonder what she would do if she discovered that she isn’t alone.
I wonder how she would feel if she knew were listening and that she had even one person who understood what it feels like to be you.

If a PART of you has been living your life inside the Myth of Everything, she has probably been trying to get it all done so that you can finally do what you want, but this Part of you may not be big enough to be EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE ALL OF THE TIME. She may not be big enough to be everything for you all of the time either.

HOWEVER….she may not appreciate your shoving her aside and taking over.
What if you asked her what you could do to help her out?
What if you asked her what would make it possible for her to let you be around more of the time?

LISTENING to yourself can often prevent burn-out. LISTENING is FRIENDLY.

Listening to a part of yourself is a good way to make a new friend of someone who thought you already knew.

When you LISTEN to a PART of you, then you are by definition NOT ONLY that PART…When you aren’t ONLY one part of you, you might be able to find other parts of you that know how to help you avoid burning-out. You might find other parts of you to help you live the life you really want.

If you decide to LISTEN to the part of you who is living MOST of your life, remember that she needs a friend and not another critic.

After all she has been trying to do it all in a life where there is always more to do. Even if you can see that she doesn’t “get-it” about what you really need, THIS PART OF YOU NEEDS A BREAK.

The last thing she needs is somebody telling her that she is not doing enough.

What this part of you really needs is a friend. She needs someone to talk to.

You could be that friend. It might make all the difference.

I am a graduate and ongoing student of Mentorcoach a professional coach training program, and I am a member of the International Coach Federation.

In addition to professional coach training, I have a Master’s Degree and license in counseling psychology, graduate training in business communications, a graduate diploma in religious studies, a five-year training-analysis in Jungian psychology, and nearly twenty years’ experience helping people make choices, overcome obstacles, and resolve conflicts in order to act in ways that satisfy them.

I also co-own and operate a thriving small retail business and know first-hand how to help you plan and work in the real world.

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Travel phobia is a particular form of anxiety that may occur after a person has been involved in some kind of accident, maybe a road or rail crash. They may have escaped physically unscathed from the incident, however they might well have perceived it as a potential threat to their well being, physical health or indeed life.

Anyone suffering from travel phobia is likely to avoid travelling as much as is possible. If forced to travel by car, they are likely to prefer to be in control of the car, rather than be a passenger. During the journey they will be perpetually alert, scanning the road for potential accident causing situations. By the time they arrive at their destination, they are often irritable, tense and exhausted. This only serves to reinforce the phobic response.

Some individuals will refuse to even travel by car, bus or rail despite the drastic upheaval this will cause in their day-to-day lives. This avoidance is one of the reasons phobias are maintained as the sufferer is not exposed to the situations they fear and therefore cannot come to terms with their phobia.

Fear of driving or Hodophobia can be triggered by a variety of different factors and can manifest itself as anything from mild nervousness to an incapacitating full-blown panic attack. These responses are learned behaviours and they are all highly treatable.

Some people are simply terrified of even being in a car, whether driving themselves or being driven by others. Perhaps they once had a panic or anxiety attack while driving and suffer under the perpetual fear that it will happen again. On the other hand, they may fear that other drivers are going to lose control.

Many drivers feel comfortable driving on familiar roads, close to where they live for example, but grow scared that they might lose control in unfamiliar territory. Others may be happy to drive on ordinary roads but have a fear of driving on motorways or dual carriageways.

There are also those who are afraid of getting caught in heavy traffic, or driving at night or in difficult weather (sleet, snow or fog) or of driving down narrow lanes.

Steve Hill discusses travel phobia and the fear of driving. Learn how to live without fear or anxiety. Read more informative fear, anxiety and phobia articles and information at:
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The average adult typically utters 40,000 words each day, according to a study performed by Professor Robin Dunbar of Liverpool University. A substantial amount, but have you actually considered how valuable words are? What about how powerful they are? Words have the power to heal, lighten, comfort, and encourage, on the flip side they can wither, hurt, anger and
discourage. What a gamut!

What about the role that words play in life. Words are a continuation of our thoughts, only verbalized. Do you always think carefully before you speak? Do you speak with good intentions? While it’s quite normal to have negative thoughts from time to time, and we’ve discussed how to diminish the occurrence of these thoughts. (See the Empower Yourself for Success Today! Article in the Leading Edge Living Archives, www.leadingedgecoaching.com/zinesPlus.shtml -April 22, 2003 issue). Just because we think it, does not mean that it bears repeating. Thinking something and giving it a voice just solidifies the thought. So if it’s negative, we’ve provided the nourishment for it to take root and sprout - just like a weed.

Do you want to attract negativity or lack? I’ll wager the answer is no. If so, don’t speak of it, about it, or repeat it. Easier said than done? Not really, but one must first become conscious of it when it is occurring. In The One Minute Millionaire there is company whose owner decided to have his employees accept responsibility for what they said by paying a fine for each negative thing that was uttered. He found it quite effective. Can you imagine having to pay for each instance of negativity that is said? Talk about accountability!

Mrs. Morgan, a fifth grade teacher, was heartsick as she listened to the words that were being spoken by her students. They were very negative, often hurtful, callous words that had no business being spoken, least of all to other impressionable, fragile children. Having been on the receiving end of hurtful words during her school days, she knew personally how damaging the long-term effects could be. After a great deal of thought she formulated a plan. She discussed it with the school principal, and after she was given the okay, she sat down to compose a letter to the parents.

The following Monday, she assembled her class and explained her distress over the words that were spoken each day. She told them that the principal and their parents were in agreement with her, and that they wanted the behavior to cease. They students each had 200 minutes of “free” time each week that was used for recess and “fun” activities. She explained that she was given permission to charge them 5 minutes for each instance of “careless speak” that she heard. Like most children they did not take her seriously until about mid-week when the most serious offenders were removed from the classroom because they had no more free time available. By Thursday afternoon she had less than a quarter of her class for free time, and by Friday she had just one student remaining. The children that were removed were put to work in other classrooms, or given additional lessons. The following week Mrs. Morgan saw a substantial improvement in behavior, and after doing this for three months the “careless speak” behavior was almost non-existent. The program was such a success that it was implemented grade by grade until the entire school participated.

Mrs. Morgan committed herself to making a difference. Are you ready to make a commitment? Make the commitment to yourself. The results will be phenomenal. You can begin to attract more positive things in life and improve your relationships. People who share your newfound control for voicing positive things will be attracted to you, and those who already know you will marvel at the new you. Your relationships will gather strength, and new ones will abound.

Let the 40,000 words that you utter each day mean something. Remember to choose your words with care, speak positive words with conviction, and let attraction work its very powerful magic.

Eva Gregory, master coach, speaker and author of The Feel Good Guide To Prosperity, http://www.feelgoodguide.com, has instructed thousands on the Laws of Attraction in person, on the radio and in dozens of teleconference training seminars and programs. She is the author of several books and e-books and has co-developed several telephone-based and internet-based training courses on the Laws of Attraction. Her most popular program to date is her Leading Edge Living One Year Success Program. Eva is regularly featured on radio and in the media and is a recognized authority on the Laws of Attraction. To learn more about her products and services, visit Leading Edge Coaching, http://www.leadingedgecoaching.com.